today I participated in a debate, topic goes that: who should apologize first? claim view: the one with a fault apologizes first; counterclaim view: boy apologizes first. I played the counterclaim role, 3rd debater who is responsible for closing statement. here I want to share with you my closing statement:

without any doubt boy should apologize first, I got 3 points to support this view:

1. it’s still a male-dominated world. I’m not a chauvinist and I don’t have any prejudice on female, but I have to say that male has some advantages over female which caused by original physiological structure differences and modern society division. this phenomenon exists globally, not only in China. Actually Chinese women are the most equal righters compared with other countries’, even sometimes have higher social status over men seemingly. But the fact is, as long as we emphasize “women equal rights”, the “women unequal phenomena” exist. women can only get the real equal rights when we don’t say it any more. I said so much just try to approve female are disadvantaged groups over male. so girls are already so unequally treated, how can you require girls to apologize first for some trifles even though the fault is theirs? no way!

2. people regard that everything should be principle-oriented, especially for big decisions, like buying houses. but girls are somehow kind of emotional animals, you cannot discuss everything with girls by principles. men focus on the truth, they obey to the rules, they insist on figuring out what is right / what is wrong. but it doesn’t work well in daily life, because harmony is more important than truth. and in daily life, we don’t have many big decisions to make. I believe girls are reasonable with big decisions. don’t worry about houses buying decision, apologize first, man!

3. Apologize first is not about right or wrong, it’s about how much you love her. Apologize first is an attitude, attitude for love. sometimes girls’ unreasonable behavior is asking for love, but chauvinists regard it as nettlesome. if you can understand this well, it will be much easier for you to apologize first. man, apologize first if you still love her, no matter how unreasonable she seems to be. she just wants to validate whether you love her that much!