When I first met him, he was sitting in the cafe quietly with no facial expression. Later we met at the cafe for a few times, he paid for every date and stayed with me until late night. Within a month, he asked me to be his girlfriend and said he would bring me to his friends’ party. I didn’t get to see his friends until he told me that he would not be the one for me. I could not help but crying like a baby. He later sent me some steak that his parents gave to him as Christmas gift. After that I went with him to his house warming party, meeting his college friends and having dinner together.

After that, I did not contact him and he didn’t contact me. We didn’t speak until 7 months later when I moved closer to him and asked him for help with moving. He showed up right away and we started talking again.

He is one of the two men in front of whom I cried like a baby. Last time we met, he told me that “I am not the one for you. But part of me still cares about you.” Doesn’t it sound familiar? If you still remember, my date #51 – Greek Guy, said the same thing to me and made me cry. Greek guy said that he could feel that I got more and more involved in the relationship that he could not handle. He said that he felt sorry that he would not be the one but part of him still cared about me. Months after he said that, he texted me asking how I was doing. I didn’t respond. I probably haven’t blocked his number because it does not matter to me.

But I deleted his.

He told me that during the 7 months we did not talk, he dated another Chinese girl briefly and had sex with her. I have no idea about what she does but only that she lives in a poor neighborhood. She later disappeared on him. And then he started to date an intern in his company and had lunch together for twice. It scares me. I was his first girl who taught him how to date but it leads him to target other Chinese girls who probably do not have a strong mind as I do. When we dated, he had no sex experience and pressured me many times to sleep with him. I told him that I would never do so without a ring on my finger. He used to be shy and respectful. But 7 months later, he became a playboy who lost respect and treated women casually. I felt so bad about myself especially when I heard that he was trying to get laid his intern at work. I was sexual harassed when I was an intern – the manager on the floor pushed me to have dinner and drink with him. He also brought me into a dark meeting room. I did not realize his intention until a female manager showed up to save me.

I felt so sad that some other woman probably is having the same experience as I did. I tried to tell him not to do this but he did not listen. I felt that I was the one that gave this guy confidence to do all these to hurt other women’s feelings. I told him that I would never see him again. He looked at me, smiling. “And one day you will call me again for help. I know that.” He looks as if he has me in control. I smelt something called danger. I let him go, deleted his number and unfriended him on facebook.

I am writing this down to remind myself that I have dated such a guy who I see become a bad boy.